Phil makes an excellent point in the following video, though leave it to Phil to say a needed truth in the most offensive way possible (I do sometimes tire of the needless offense he brings, but there is a truth in his message that should not be missed)
Pulpit Highlights - Phil Johnson from Grace Community Church on Vimeo.
Disclaimer: There are certainly elements to his message that I would strongly disagree with. I didn't like the fact that he equated "womanly" with "weak" (I've witnessed my wife give birth three times--nothing weak about that). Furthermore, it troubled me to see an entire auditorium of pastors laugh when Phil sarcastically said "but we are hurting". While it is no good to constantly dwell on our hurt (which seems to have been Phil's point), there is something seriously wrong when the idea of pain and emotional hurt is funny to men that call themselves shepherds of Christ's flock. If this is masculinity, many bible-believing Christians (I among them) would prefer the 'womanly' version of Christianity Phil depises. I don't like what the Evangelical church has become, but I don't like Phil's version either. Let's keep searching for something in the middle.